Monday, May 03, 2010

adoption update...

The adoption process is going along a little faster than we had expected! I honestly didn’t know how long it would take for the home study to be complete, but in my mind since I tend to think the worst, I imagined it would take 4-6 months! We had our first interview[out of 3] with our worker last Monday. It went really well! We have our second interview scheduled for the May 10th, and then the final visit at our home on May 20th! We are very excited….

One thing Kaz and I have talked about is the next step. After everything is approved and we are just waiting we have wondered what we will think and feel. It’s honestly scary for me to think about…knowing that any day we could get a phone call saying there is a child for us. Will it take a long time? Will it be a very short wait? I have no idea what to think…In my mind, I would like to think things will go quickly and by a certain date we would have a child. BUT what if that doesn’t happen? What will my faith be like? I’m not the most patient person….Will I lose Hope?
There are so many questions that run through my mind regarding the “waiting period”.

If you have adopted, I would love to hear more about this stage from you and how you handled it…..

18 comments:

Amy said...

We are in the process right now...except that with Ethiopian adoptions we have more of an expected timeline. However, I am having a hard time with the waiting just the same. We just received a peace this weekend. I posted about it today.

I hope that your waiting season is short.
Many blessings,
Amy

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

What can I say- we jumped the hoop because we took a waiting child....so our wait was not as long.

I think any part of the wait is hard! I spent a lot of time PRAYING, getting sidetracked and driving my husband NUTS! :)

Jessica said...

so exciting!

Stephanie said...

I'm glad things are moving right along. Hopefully you won't have to wait too long to bring home your child. Trust in the Lord's perfect timing, He knows best!

The Headley's said...

Oh girl, how I remember the wait! I told myself not to get set on a specific date, but I did, and when that date came and went without a baby I was so upset. I knew the Lord had a baby who was ours, but once again, I was trying to make him fit in the little box that I thought would be so perfect. As we know, the Lord does not fit inside our little boxes and now, looking back, I can see that His timing was perfect, as always.

I would read Psalm 77 and the beginning of 78 over and over again. In order for the "children yet to be born" to know "the wonderous works He has done" you have to preach it to yourself! So stay in the word and remember that one day, this will be one of the many stories you can tell your children about the wonderful things the Lord did in your life so that they can see He is a great and mighty God! There's my two cents! : )

Tea said...

When we were in the adoption process (Ethiopia) and in the waiting stage, we were of course anxious to meet our child and there were times when we thought the wait felt long... But since we had grown used to waiting and hoping for a child before we began the adoption process, the waiting while in the process was much easier for me..because we knew there would be a child at the end of the wait!

The wait was a fun time to prepare my heart and mind (as best I could) and to get our house ready for a little one.

Our wait took a little longer than we thought it would, but God works it out so that the perfect child is brought into the perfect family for him or her.

I hope the process goes quickly and smoothly for you guys!!
God be with you

Annie said...

how exciting hun! :)
i'll be praying for you two!!

KW said...

yay! i'm so glad it's all going so smoothly and quickly! you'll be a mommy before you know it!!! and a WONDERFUL one at that!!! :)

Rhonda said...

Sounds like everything is going smoothly so far. I have not adopted a child, but have heard many people say it is about the time of carrying a child...9 months or more. Maybe that will give you a little perspective. The wait will be worth it, because God's timing is perfect.

Jill said...

Yay Amy! I'm so glad it's going quickly.

Candace said...

I can't imagine the patience you have to be waiting and still not know exactly how long you will be waiting for.

Prayers for your wait to prepare you fully!

{andthisiswhatshesaid} said...

thats exciting :)

Sarah said...

Wow, it sounds like it's going very smoothly so far. You will find a way to occupy your mind during that waiting period, though I'm sure you'll be on pins and needles!

linds said...

My husband and I are pretty much at the same place in our adoption journey as you guys are. And the day that we got our call saying that we were approved we were also asked if we would be liked to be considered for a possible match with a birth mother that same day. We unfortunately had to say no because we didn't have the money raised yet. I think that it will go pretty fast for you if you already have the money available. Good luck ... I love reading your blog so far, and I am excited to share this journey with you. :0)

Loren said...

HIS timing is Perfect....always right on time! NEVER late....but then again....never early either ;)

trust in HIS perfect time! Great things are coming your way!!

Kara said...

Wow. Well, I remember this season really well. The first go around, I had prepped to wait a couple of years or more and got the call that we had been selected by a birth mother in 4 months from our application being submitted. The second time around we waited a little over 2 years for that blessed phone call. You can't help but be anxious. I remember setting milestones for myself, but as you can imagine, they came and went and I only hurt myself in the process, because God doesn't work in our timelines. I do remember getting the 1st phone call while I was just working around the house on a typical day and my hubby was mowing the lawn, when I heard the words - a little girl has been born and the birth mom has picked you guys. Freak out!!!!! The second time I was driving to the grocery store on a Tuesday and my whole world changed. You never know when the miracle is going to come. So excited about your progress. God will be faithful!

Hattie said...

We're just alike...The waiting and all the unanswered questions would drive me crazy. I'm so happy for y'all and I'm sure everything will fall into place. Praying for y'all!

Vanessa said...

I haven't adopted, but my younger sister placed her first daughter for adoption, and I know the couple that she chose (it was an open adoption) had waited for about a year with the agency. I am sure that felt like an ETERNITY for them, especially with how long they tried beforehand, but in the end, of course it was the right child for them at the right time. It's such an amazing story, and I am sure that yours will be too. :-) I look forward to reading your journey!