tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post5554798082808497182..comments2024-01-20T03:32:50.010-05:00Comments on Our Journey..Together....: Man's role around the house.....Amy Prikazskyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06107237846008428490noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-4158554189576456822010-03-23T13:45:19.407-04:002010-03-23T13:45:19.407-04:00You do have an amazing husband. He truly loves yo...You do have an amazing husband. He truly loves you and that is why he does those things for you. In this day and age, there really isn't a defined role for each gender when it comes to household work. If your husband was super busy with work and you were home, you would probably do the same things for him. It's all about love and respect.Life Happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02302134343874268994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-72804535564836985662010-03-20T20:28:51.571-04:002010-03-20T20:28:51.571-04:00Growing up, my mom has ALWAYS been the bread winne...Growing up, my mom has ALWAYS been the bread winner. If she had to, she would go to work at 7am and not come home until 9pm. My dad would work but my mom just has the entrepreneurial spirit in the family. She's pretty good at delegating. They usually split making dinner and she usually does the laundry, but my dad does most of the cleaning stuff.<br /><br />I realize that growing up like that has translated into my relationship with my husband. I do all the laundry and I'm the "working" one, while he usually comes home by 3:00. But, I haven't quite trained him yet to do all the housework! (Kidding!)Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13686565812112185860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-86315236697730101982010-03-18T21:55:13.924-04:002010-03-18T21:55:13.924-04:00I think it's a two way street. Yes, I am a tra...I think it's a two way street. Yes, I am a traditionalist and want to cook, clean, etc. for Mike while he does the "manly" stuff like mowing the yard, taking care of the cars, etc. <br /><br />With that said, I appreciate so much when Mike helps cook, do the dishes, clean (I won't let him touch the laundry!) :-) and I want to and enjoy helping him with the outside stuff because I know he appreciates it. <br /><br />As long as the communication lines are open and one person isn't annoyed or frustrated with doing something (or the other person NOT doing something) then I think both husband and wife can do whatever they want/need to do to support each other and keep a truly happy home. <br /><br />(rock on to your husband, by the way)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303625405024376424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-61060451253752110182010-03-17T18:39:46.985-04:002010-03-17T18:39:46.985-04:00I think our role as the wives is to be the suitabl...I think our role as the wives is to be the suitable helper for our husbands. After all that is why God created us. Man needed a companion. However I see nothing wrong with your husband giving you a hand around the house and with chores for the time being. I think this stage is temporary and you should accept it gracefully. <br /><br />I'm sure you help your husband in other ways and that's what counts. We are here to serve each other. My husband says the secret to marriage is to "outserve" each other. Your husband is certainly doing a pretty good job. ;) I know your turn will come to outserve him/your marriage. (i.e. sleepless nights up feeding a baby, etc.)<br /><br />Enjoy your husband and thank him for loving you through his actions. =)Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05254356331221159864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-79635504048963034512010-03-16T12:16:49.772-04:002010-03-16T12:16:49.772-04:00Let's start with the fact that my husband and ...Let's start with the fact that my husband and I travel for work EVERY WEEK. So, I have a housekeeper to keep the house in check and I take care of laundry, groceries and dry cleaner. <br /><br />He is responsible for all the organization itens like cupboards and closets, since he is OCD about organization ; )Fabiolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00734581518242981236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-80492224852755770892010-03-16T10:16:09.934-04:002010-03-16T10:16:09.934-04:00Don't feel bad! I often get that guilt because...Don't feel bad! I often get that guilt because my husband is quite amazing as well, and I have to tell myself that I am doing other things that are important to our household as well. <br /><br />Lucky girl for such a great husband too - they are few and far between.Candacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03199408217303828576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-86202292084821197082010-03-16T00:18:28.841-04:002010-03-16T00:18:28.841-04:00that is too wonderful! you are a lucky gal! but i&...that is too wonderful! you are a lucky gal! but i'm sure your husband is just as lucky!<br />i guess i feel like all the household chores should be shared! it really just determines on the family! but there is not only one role for each partner!chelsea rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07848191706307359977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-25061941936540863192010-03-15T22:34:45.658-04:002010-03-15T22:34:45.658-04:00i don't think 'lucky' is the right wor...i don't think 'lucky' is the right word, but way blessed...for sure.<br /><br />i think that for our house, we take turns doing more than the other around the house. and we balance each other out. sort of like you guys are doing. he sees the need and is filling it, not that some guys don't! but he truly i think HAS to have a servant's heart. and the bible says to love your wife as christ loves the church. he is showing his true love to you by serving you and helping you out. i think christ would do the same thing. i'm a stay at home mom and some weeks my hubby does more than me. but it doesn't make me feel like a failure for not doing it during the day, it makes me realize that he realize all the other stuff i do during the day and truly do not have time for sweeping or what have you. i struggle with that more than anything like 'i'm home i should be doing ALL of it' then i realize that i'm also taking care of four (and a half) kids. schooling two of them. changing diapers on two of them. taking them to dance class. doing the shopping etc. and realize i do more than i thought! last night i told shaun i was thankful he worked so i didn't have to. and he laughed at me...and said i work harder than he does. awww. sorry to take over these comments. wow.amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13189348512265390836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-61074206584076450052010-03-15T21:23:49.543-04:002010-03-15T21:23:49.543-04:00first off - I haven't gotten to tell you CONGR...first off - I haven't gotten to tell you CONGRATS on adoption! That is SO exciting :)<br /><br />2nd - can your husband come train mine? LOL - mines learning but it's still a struggle for him to be aware that there are dishes in the sink, dirty clothes that need to be washed etc. My theory is - we both work full time jobs so we both can do stuff around the house!aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10733321323080908693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-60049689714819160922010-03-15T21:08:55.170-04:002010-03-15T21:08:55.170-04:00I just found your blog and wanted to say that I am...I just found your blog and wanted to say that I am so excited to read about your adoption journey! We adopted my sister when I was 10 and she was just a few months old. I couldn't imagine life without her. I hope to adopt someday myself. CONGRATS!!Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17569782692238061558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-48267925416632401802010-03-15T20:35:16.402-04:002010-03-15T20:35:16.402-04:00be sure to swing by my blog... there is something ...be sure to swing by my blog... there is something waiting for you!Katie @ Miss Klohn's Classroomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11952182539453384791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-70983891552892252272010-03-15T20:12:00.780-04:002010-03-15T20:12:00.780-04:00I don't think there should be certain duties a...I don't think there should be certain duties a woman does or a man does (well, other than child bearing, for obvious reasons). It's a partnership, which looks different for each couple depending on each person's strengths and attitudes toward each of the responsibilities. There are no "women's jobs" in a healthy relationship. It's the 21st century and there is equality between men and women. Let's throw away the stigma and let whoever has the time and energy do the laundry and dishes. If that's not you, then that's totally fine. You pull your weight in other areas of the relationship I'm sure. I really don't think who does what matters, as long as you are both contributing in equal ways.kimbirdyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02933291126592725297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-66705374371452297082010-03-15T19:15:58.611-04:002010-03-15T19:15:58.611-04:00I may not be the best one to answer this...but to ...I may not be the best one to answer this...but to me the real question is not who does what...but are you willing to help each other. Is the "man" willing to do housework and is the "woman" willing to do yard work. If you just as willing to help him when needed as he is to help you..then I think you have success and the guilt should go away. Just my thoughts!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12471690335887690468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-25265885259785734802010-03-15T18:52:42.170-04:002010-03-15T18:52:42.170-04:00I think it's great your husband helps out arou...I think it's great your husband helps out around the house. My opinion was always that the person who contributes less time at work should pick up the slack around the house. That's often the wife, but not always. But I'm not married so who knows!Karisa Tells Allhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456879981475015994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-5593559727497346802010-03-15T18:31:46.436-04:002010-03-15T18:31:46.436-04:00You have a thankful heart, and you shouldn't f...You have a thankful heart, and you shouldn't feel guilty unless it is causing a problem between the two of you. I tend to fill my plate too full and my honey ends up doing a lot of the work too! But he wants to do it! God has provided you with an amazing husband who is willing to share the responsibility of the household and for that you should rejoice and be glad!We 2 Beeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604690101674758871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-57571620835558304132010-03-15T18:31:33.361-04:002010-03-15T18:31:33.361-04:00You have an amazing husband! We "share" ...You have an amazing husband! We "share" the chores but I have to say I do a few more...and he mostly only does them when I ask :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00717229551734780531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-82049034802770141912010-03-15T17:08:39.190-04:002010-03-15T17:08:39.190-04:00He is amazing! My hubby is the same! I tell him ...He is amazing! My hubby is the same! I tell him he can have my day job anyday!! LOL! honestly... I think it is a shared roll... I love mowing the lawn... sometimes I NEED to cut the lawn! he doesn't mind the dishes... it balances out. And my hubby gets more done than I do indoors... what is up with that?! I think the kids play more computer when he is home! ha ha! the dog ends up in his crate more.. etc... ;) Don't feel guilty... enjoy it if he is willing! <br />Just Jenn~Seizing My Dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13245085711105059612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-49289627565499016042010-03-15T16:14:11.568-04:002010-03-15T16:14:11.568-04:00Wow that is so great that he has been so good abou...Wow that is so great that he has been so good about it all! I think it totally just depends on yalls jobs and all! Since your so busy it seems like you dont have time to do a thing besides work and sleep! When me and Ben both worked full time he cooked and I cleaned...when I started staying home I started doing everything so now his job is to make the money and mine is to take care of the family and house.The Undomestic Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853940175730925055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-56455959069388970262010-03-15T16:02:57.844-04:002010-03-15T16:02:57.844-04:00Amy,
Philip helps all the time around the house a...Amy, <br />Philip helps all the time around the house and I'm a stay at home mom right now...I think it's wonderful that Kaz is so dedicated to helping out...I believe he sees how hard you work and want to be your help-mate, what a blessing...and like you said there may come a time when the responsibilities take a turn and you do majority of the house work and Kaz is more busy than you are...just remember when that happens how wonderful he was about it, and return to him the same GRACE that he has showed you during this time of your life! Congrats again on the adoption process and I will be praying for both of you:)<br />Love <br />Shamronhudson4https://www.blogger.com/profile/13211160522449285117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-25963074347041988662010-03-15T15:33:33.566-04:002010-03-15T15:33:33.566-04:00Hubs is really great about helping me out around t...Hubs is really great about helping me out around the house on a busy work week. My work fluctuates back and forth, so some weeks I have more time on my hands. I do think it should be shared responsibility, and whoever is home more usually does more around the house. I guess it is just up to each and ever person and how it fits into their schedules... :)<br /><br />And that is awesome is does so much for you, you are blessed!Heather @ Simple Wiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13258296077135380226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-54964129928539062702010-03-15T15:32:09.856-04:002010-03-15T15:32:09.856-04:00I think number one if it works for you all, keep d...I think number one if it works for you all, keep doing it! But I know what you mean! When I stayed home with our daughter I did everything because I had the time and felt like that is what I needed to do at that moment in my life. Now that I work for our church where my hubby is a pastor at, we both have crazy hours, and we both are tired and don't want to clean! We do a chore chart. It holds us both accountable and stops one of of us for feeling guilty because we did so much more than the other one, or vis versa. But count your blessings, your hubby sounds wonderful!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806555904744459892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-61031144375679858082010-03-15T15:22:26.367-04:002010-03-15T15:22:26.367-04:00I love my hubby and do most of the cleaning since ...I love my hubby and do most of the cleaning since he works way harder and longer hours. I have to say, I wouldn't mind an extra hand on the weekends for even just 30 min!Kelsey @ Seattle Smith'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10259461326119245914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-25082341632355838292010-03-15T14:57:51.440-04:002010-03-15T14:57:51.440-04:00that is great that he helps out so much! be thank...that is great that he helps out so much! be thankful for such a servant husband! And congratulations! I just hopped on your blog and saw your new pic and scrolled down to the announcement! SO exciting!Carrie https://www.blogger.com/profile/09122331410023898418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-17442595108709886972010-03-15T13:24:50.960-04:002010-03-15T13:24:50.960-04:00I can totally relate right now! My husband works h...I can totally relate right now! My husband works hard, and when he comes home he entertains the baby to give me a break. <br />I always make a point to cook him dinner no matter how busy I am just so I can serve him in some way, and then he usually does the dishes! I feel so grateful, but what is beautiful about a marriage is that you don't have to define who should do this and that...its the selfless acts of love that make you want to reciprocate and do the same. <br />But I am with you...I can't help but feel guilty!<br />What a great hubby you have! But I am sure he would say...I am the lucky one;)Anna @ IHODhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10716122766373148215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36457264.post-16382815645238020672010-03-15T13:12:35.429-04:002010-03-15T13:12:35.429-04:00Amy ~ feel guilty??? NO WAY! feel blessed!!!! ABSO...Amy ~ feel guilty??? NO WAY! feel blessed!!!! ABSOLUTELY !!! If your husband does these things for you while you are out there working and teaching and doing for others.....that is a wonderful blessing and NOTHING to feel guilty for! <br />When I worked outside the home my husband did these things for me and I was amazed at how much he could get done! I was sooo very thankful that I didn't live with someone who was of the opinion that it was all my responsibility....<br />You all are a TEAM!!! and the fact the he is Sharing in the household stuff shows that he is and will most likely be a wonderful team leader! As you all have kids this will continue as they get older and are able to be a part in the ways to make a house run smoothly so that not one person is doing it all!<br />Won't that be awesome :)Lorenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02342381156917160229noreply@blogger.com